at the public museum.
"Breastfeeding is natural but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Just like anything in life, there are countless variables that come in to play that will increase or decrease success.
In my opinion, women that exclusively breastfeed or pump have such an amazing determination that I find hard to put into words.
A few that come to mind are, strong, incredible, committed, beautiful, love. For me, things were tough from the beginning. My son was born with a tongue tie that was remedied immediately after he was delivered by a simple snip of the skin. Little did I know that the inability for his tongue to leave his mouth for nine months in utero would cause so many breastfeeding hardships. His latch was horrible and it caused me pain (grip your boppy pillow kind of pain). He constantly sucked one of his lips in and he was ALWAYS falling asleep but if I moved at all he woke up and would attempt to nurse. I’m pretty sure I nursed him every hour on the hour for three weeks! Before he was born a friend told me to prepare to be sitting on my couch with my boobs out all day and never moving, I laughed then, but she wasn’t kidding.
I cried a lot, I became upset with my significant other and most of my family and friends, their lives were just going on around me like it was no big deal that I was struggling to feed my baby.
One night my significant other and I had an argument because nothing was working and I was stressed. Formula was mentioned, we had it in the house because they send you all kinds of free samples as a new mom and I freaked out even more about that suggestion because it was like admitting defeat to my stubborn self. After that episode, I turned to an online mom’s group for more advice and I met with a lactation consultant at the Columbia Center where he was delivered and then another lactation consultant at Columbia St. Mary’s on the lake. Still having troubles four weeks in I met with another lactation consultant at Well Rounded Maternity Center, continued to consult my notes from the ‘breastfeeding basics’ class we had taken before he was born and kept meeting with lactation consultants, oh and continued to be stressed for six weeks.
It was incredibly hard to go out in public since I had to strategically time everything around him eating because I wasn’t confident in what I was doing and I had to be more uncovered than I liked so I could see what I was doing, not to mention milk spraying across the room, it just wasn’t the natural scene that I had previously envisioned. On my birthday of all days, 36 days after coming earth side and having his tongue tie clipped he latched perfectly.
Maybe it was the one beer that I drank in hopes to have a happy birthday, maybe it was because we had learned together or because good things take time.
After that day, he didn’t latch perfectly every time but we pushed forward and we both thrived. I was able to nurse him for 19 months and I probably could have gone longer had I not gotten pregnant with his sister and developed an aversion to nursing. But hey….now she’s here….and on her ultrasound I saw her stick her little tongue out at us. My breastfeeding journey with her hasn’t been as tough but I chalk a lot of that up to having done this once before.
So, I guess if I could give some advice to new nursing mothers, it would be, don’t get discouraged, seek help and follow your instincts." - Crystal